When I first realised that Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs had listed sex as a basic need, I thought the man must have been a pervert. I was young and naïve then. Today, I know he was right. It is for this reason that I find the topic of sex drive necessary and interesting even though some people consider it taboo. But there is a problem we must deal with, whether we want to speak about it or not.
Do you need some sex drive? What kind of question am I asking? The innuendo surrounding issues of sex has made people to suffer from lack of libido for many years. I am not ready to bet my money because people rarely want to talk about their sexual experiences and needs, but I am sure most of the people you will meet on the streets today are sexually starved.
Stress and mental fatigue are responsible for the sex-less life many of us lead today. There are so many cares and people have to attend to so many concerns on a daily basis that they have no time for sex. When the man and woman of the house finally finish taking dinner and send the kids to bed, they (couple) are too tired to have some fun in bed. All they want is to catch a few hours of sleep before embarking on the next day’s activities. Sex can only be enjoyed when people are in the mood for it. There is no way your libido will spike when you are thinking about financial problems that await you when you wake up.
There are also many of us in broken marriages where there is no communication as would be expected. These are marriages that are on their deathbeds because of unresolved issues. The partners cannot see eye to eye and those who are together are simply doing so because they have children to take care of. Even when they sleep in the same bed, the two marriage partners are simply strangers. In such a case, unless each of the partners takes decisive steps to save the marriage, sex will never be discussed. But when the sex drive of each of the two is revived, there is hope that the relationship will be given a new lease of life and the partners can begin to enjoy being together once again.
But there are also those who have no problem with one another yet they cannot find the spark that would make blood boil again. They are not enemies. They are doing well in their careers. They are happy with life as it is. But sex appears to have taken a flight. How do you revive sex drive on this case? Remember, sex is essential to a successful marriage and going without it for long will lead to partners drifting apart and eventually divorcing. Some people may not agree with this assertion, but the fact is that sooner or later one or both of the partners will have to seek for sex and consolation outside marriage.
Admittedly, sex cannot solve all marital problems. Partners who are incompatible may eventually leave their relationships. Differences that can be resolved must be brought to the table and discussed amicably. Compromises must be made. Sometimes relatives and marriage counselor must be called in to mediate. Despite all this, the issue of libido, if unresolved will bring all the other solutions to naught. It is for this reason that we must find ways of reviving sex drive in marriage and other intimate relationships.
The first point in addressing issues of libido is to understand that hormones play a great role in determining whether you are in the mood for sex or not. I agree that you can light candles, eat a delicious dinner, play the most romantic music and wear some lingerie before you dive under warm sheets, but this cannot by itself give you the sex drive you need. Spiking your sex-related hormones is the most assured strategy of putting you in the mood for passion, not just today but for a long time. I need to caution you, though, that using synthetic substances to revive your libido may work momentarily but this may lead to hormonal balances that will harm your body.
That is why I want to suggest that you use natural methods which have no side effects if taken in the right quantity and quality. To this end there are herbs, fruits and other food substances that can greatly boost your libido without you having to turn to popular but harmful substances that can even cause heart attacks.
Let us have a look at some of these important super-foods that can bring you happiness, passion and good health, and more importantly, provide you with more moments of unbridled romance.
These abundant fruits contain antioxidants, which in turn boost blood circulation in your heart and arteries. By now you know that efficient blood circulation is a prerequisite for great sex. Need I add that they contain vitamin C which helps to increase the amount of sperms in semen?
This is a super-fruit that is full of antioxidants, vitamin B6 and potassium. These nutrients are crucial in preventing you from getting heart diseases and also boost blood flow. A strong heart is the best medicine against erectile dysfunction thus boosting your libido.
These beans are packed with L-Dopa or dopamine which is a potent aphrodisiac. L-Dopa is effective in stimulating the secretion of testosterone, the male hormone that boosts libido. Mucuna beans also replenish jing (or vital essence) of the body thus boosting sexual activity.
Orchic (Bull Testicles)
Please read on before you think I am deranged. I am talking about a supplement that is made from bull testicles and is available in capsule form. This substance contains hormones that will boost your sex hormones and libido.
This is an extract from some of the most ‘romantic’ animals on earth. This product contains powerful hormones for boosting your libido. Specifically, the contents of this substance aid calcium movement, ease muscle movement, regulate blood pressure and smooth inflammation.
There are many more natural foods and supplements that you can use to boost your libido. Take time to know and use them!!
Your Grace Guru