Christmas Chaos – How To Keep Your Cool During The Holidays

Once again Christmas is around the corner, which includes extremely busy schedules and a whirlwind of activities. You will be expected to host parties for your immediate family, relatives, friends and neighbours where necessary. You will also have obligations to attend work events, neighbour’s dinner parties and make the trip to the grandparents’. To prepare for all these activities, there are hundreds of items to be bought. Somewhere in between, you may be fortunate to travel and enjoy some time with your friends. The list endless, but the fact is indisputable – your excitement will be as high as your troubles!

How do you remain sane in the midst of all these activities? We hear you say… Here are a few of our best suggestions to ease the chaotic holiday period:

  1. Priorities

There are many activities that you can engage in this Christmas. You are spoilt for choice on which destination to visit. Your friends and relatives are competing to visit you or for you to grace their parties this year. You want to purchase the best gifts for your family but with such a long list of presents to buy you may be stuck for money. Your salvation lies in having priorities. However, whatever you choose to put first, remember family is the most important aspect. If anybody wants to involve you in an activity that will disadvantage your spouse and children, turn the former down.

  1. Plan Ahead

I want to believe that you took time to plan for this holiday. You must have decided how much you will spend on various aspects of the holiday including travel, clothing, food, parties and so on. If you haven’t, it isn’t too late. Remember January is coming and with it bills and expenditure. Do not plan to spend everything during Christmas and begin to struggle when the bills come your way in January. If you fail to plan, you will be working on autopilot and will not know when the gas in the tank will be gone.

  1. Avoid Impulse Buying

Make sure not to overspend. You must be disciplined. Christmas spending can easily get out of hand. If you are the type that cannot remain faithful to a financial plan, you will soon be dealing with excessive spending and this will cause you a lot of mental anguish. Don’t purchase items because your neighbour has similar ones. If you are a parent, take advantage of this period to teach your children how to make wise purchasing decisions. You will not have peace of mind celebrating Christmas when you are unsure of your financial abilities in the New Year.

  1. Learn To Delegate

If you don’t want to run around like a headless chicken, share out responsibilities with people around you! Don’t be afraid to ask your friends, partner, and family members for help! Sharing out your Christmas to-do-list is actually a great way to spend some time with your loved ones, away from the usual distractions of iPhones or TV! Prepare some meals with your partner, divide the shopping list with your friends, and open a bottle of wine to decorate your home! Who said organisation isn’t fun ;-)!

  1. Remember Yourself

I know everyone will be looking up to you to deliver on this big occasion. However, remember you have a life to live and a Christmas to enjoy. Don’t forget to buy yourself a Christmas present. Get enough sleep in between parties and travels. If you are religious, remember to reflect on your spiritual beliefs of Christmas. Take time to pray and connect with the Supreme Being. Bring cheer to the lives of the unfortunates as this will bring cheer to your heart too. If you don’t take care of yourself, you will have a chaotic Christmas and that is the last thing you want!

  1. Enjoy The Outdoors

Whatever you do this Christmas, take time to breathe fresh air. You can do this by making a trip to a favourite destination, having a picnic with your family along the banks of a river, visiting a children’s home and playing with the kids in the open or play your favourite outdoor game. The most important thing is that you absorb fresh air because it invigorates your blood and brain and renews you to participate in more events. Staying indoors for most of Christmas is likely to make you stressed and maybe even grumpy. Let nature help you to remain calm during this hectic time and you will not regret in January saying you just helped others to be merry at your expense.

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Stand Out From the Crowd – Gain That Natural Sparkle and Glow This December

Your skin is one of the most important body organs – in fact, the largest. The quality of your skin is an indicator of your overall health status. Your skin is the most visible part of your body and people tend to make certain judgements about you based on the health, texture and glow of this amazing part of your body (come on, we’ve all done it).

We all know that feeling where we have completed our daily routine, we look in the mirror and feel no glow, no light. Whether we are wearing make-up or a natural complexion, some days you think you look glum, maybe patches of dry skin and your make up just doesn’t look as it usually does. This article will highlight the key ways that you can make sure you feel a little glam every day, you know when you feel like the light catches you in the right places all God damn day!

More often than not when people call you beautiful, they can be talking about your skin, as well as your other features. Just as a smile or bright eyes can light up someone’s face, so can your skin! For this reason, if you want to stand out from the crowd this holiday season it is time to go back to basics. There is no point with adding more make-up to your skin when the problems may be arising from the quality of your skin itself.

Natural Strategies For Glowing Skin

So, here are out recommended natural strategies to ensure your skin has a new lease of life this December.

  1. Drink A LOT Of Water

This is the probably the most obvious yet ignored strategy for making your skin glow. We all underestimate the power of water, for one, your body consists of roughly 70% water so keeping yourself hydrated could not be more important! Water is the fluid that must be present in almost all body processes. Your blood is water enriched with essential minerals, fluids, nutrients and so on. For your skin to glow, you need the recommended eight or more glasses of water daily. But there is a catch here. Some people argue that other drinks can contribute to the eight glasses, but I would highly recommend eight glasses of pure water. I know that I used to believe that drinking tea or coffee, for example, would count as water. But in fact, due to the levels of caffeine in these drinks this actually dehydrates you. Alternatively, herbal teas can help with hydrating the skin, and can also detox you at the same time!

  1. Eat Plenty Of Fruit And Vegetables

We often forget that the skin is not artificial. No amount of makeup and chemicals will transform your skin – especially not without negative effects. Moreover, your body needs to be nurtured from inside to the outside. The body understands one language – good nutrition. Fruits and vegetables are particularly important for making your skin healthy and free from toxins. Remember acne and other skin blemishes are not what you need two weeks before Christmas, now is the time to ensure you don’t wake up Christmas morning with a trip from Santa and a horrendous break out. This December look for the fruits and vegetables that are in season, snack on them raw or as part of lunch or dinner. You will be amazed at how eating apples, kales and other superfoods will make your skin glow. We outline our recommended fruit and veg for this season here: http://graceguru.net/7-food-stars-of-december-to-boost-optimal-health-2/

  1. Know Your Skin

If you are sick of your skin controlling you, you may have realised that some foods you eat often leave you with blemishes and rashes. It means you are sensitive or intolerant to certain foods. Sometimes what you think is eczema or acne could actually be a case of your skin being resistant to some food item you have eaten! This December, listen to your body and how it reacts to certain foods. Attempt to detect the foods that affect your skin negatively and remove them from your diet. Alternatively, you can take drastic measures like taking two weeks to eliminate all suspicious foods from your diet and then introducing them one by one, this detox may initially bring out a break out as your skin is usually the last place your body will release toxins from. But, after this break out has cleared, and your diet is clean, you will begin to see progress!

  1. The Worst Of All… Stress

The condition of your skin is related to the activities in your mind. To put it differently, your mental health can directly affect the health and texture of your skin. For example, when you are stressed, your skin becomes pale and vulnerable to external damage. Stress creates a rich environment for bacteria to invade your skin. Eventually, your immune system is compromised and acne, eczema and psoriasis begin to manifest. This is why it is extremely common to see teens and students with more cases of acne, due to their high levels of crazy hormones.

  1. Use Natural Skin Products

This December is your perfect opportunity to start using skin care products that agree well with your skin. Due to the demand for fast results in skin care, thousands of women are applying harmful chemicals to their skin. The results are often unpleasant especially in the long run. Your skin should glow naturally and nothing brings you closer to this ideal than to use as many of natural skin care products as possible. Products made from fruits, plants and herbs actually contain nutrients that your body needs, just like fruits and vegetables. The good news is that you can learn and apply raw fruits and other herbs to your body without any extra costs and still achieve that natural, glowing skin that you have always craved!

We would love to hear any tips you have for maintaining a healthy glow, of if you have any amazing natural tips for exfoliation or moisturising! You can see us on Facebook atwww.facebook.com/graceguru.net or send us a tweet: www.twitter.com/_graceguru_

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Our Top European Weekend Get-A-Way Locations!

People who associate winter with absolute gloom do not know Europe well. Winter is not the time to hide indoors and moan, waiting for the seasons to change. If you live in Europe or you would like to tour this great continent, plan your tour to coincide with the cold season and you will be surprised at the many exciting adventures and sceneries that await you.

If you are thinking of planning a weekend adventure or romantic gateway this winter, there are many European cities that will provide you with an unforgettable experience. One BIG advantage of visiting European gateways at a time when tourism is in low season is that in general you will spend less money than you would during summer. So, without further ado, here are our 5 top romantic European gateways to include in your bucket list:

  1. Amsterdam

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For those who have never been to this exquisite city, your mind may initially think of the famous Red Light District. But please let me assure you, this is definitely only one side of Amsterdam. There are exceptional sights seen in the outstanding architecture and vast amounts of canals and bridges that structure the city! With amazing food markets, coffee shops and museums you will have plenty of opportunities to explore. In peak tourist season the roads and pathways can be super crazy with locals and tourists travelling through the city on bicycles! But with visiting in low season may reduce the crowds, and regardless I would highly recommend hiring a bike and taking a spontaneous adventure around the city, you never know what hidden treasures may on the outskirts of the city!

One downside to Amsterdam is it is slightly more expensive than other cities in Western Europe, but travelling prices are cheap and it is also easy to find a good hotel deal so your entire trip can be successful on a relatively low budget! All I would say is remember to pack enough warm clothing as it can get quite chilly in the spring season!

  1. Salzburg

Beautiful view of the historic city of Salzburg with Festung Hohensalzburg in winter, Salzburger Land, Austria

Another great European city to visit is Salzburg, if I say this is where Mozart found his inspiration, and it was the setting for the film “The Sound Of Music” you can imagine how incredible this city is. There is a certain buzz about the city and you get the feel that this is the place where almost everyone wants to hold a concert or festival. Chances are that your gateway may coincide with one of these exceptional celebrations of music or other social event! The city is enticing and enchanting particularly because of its beautiful vies of the Eastern Alps. Make sure you visit numerous castles and fortresses in the city, and grab a taster of delicious German cuisine to sample at the Old Town and other places in the city. This is just a snapshot; the real story awaits you in the musical city of Salzburg.

  1. Lisbon

Cityscape of Lisbon in the beautiful sunset. PorugalPerhaps because it has not been the subject of a lot of publicity like other European cities, the capital of Portugal is not understood as it should. This is the perfect getaway considering the city’s laid-back nature. This city encourages relaxation with its beautiful vibrant colours and hilly contours guaranteeing you will see great views from every corner you visit! Choosing to vacation in Lisbon this winter means you will have the opportunity to walk the city’s alleys without the inconvenience of crowds.

You will also be surprised with the way in which a modern city can grow within a village setting yet the incredible traditional antique architecture remains. Yes, the ancient bleached limestone networks rival skyscrapers for beauty and grandeur in Lisbon and this is where the air of romance begins to blow on your face despite the cold. Make sure you take coffee in the many cafes on the streets of this city, watch bullfighting, and lie of the tranquil beaches.

  1. Vienna

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Okay so I know that Austria has already been mentioned but I cannot leave Vienna out! Famous for the culinary speciality Sachertorte, if you’re a fan of chocolate cake this is the getaway for you! Along with its highly recognised imperial palaces, Vienna has emerged as a contemporary city where the new and the old exist side-by-side.I would highly recommend visiting the Vienna State Opera which dates back to the mid-19th century, and rather than purchasing tickets to see the opera you can find opera tours which allow you to grab a snapshot of the Opera House for a less expensive cost.

  1. Budapest

The Szechenyi Chain Bridge, Basilica and the Budapest Eye

I have not yet had the chance to visit this city but Budapest has been highly recommended by friends who insist it is enticing and romantic right from the moment you arrive. How about a city of two halves, aptly named Buda and Pest? The magnificent and renowned River Danube is the perfect demarcation of the two sides of this must-visit getaway. Each of the twin sides of this city has unique places to visit and wonderful sceneries. The restaurants are relatively inexpensive but high quality, and the nightlife is completely different to that of Western Europe yet will always provide you with a night to remember!

Considering the dipping winter temperatures, you will appreciate that this metropolis is called the city of spas, some stretching as far as the 16th century. Budapest is the perfect travel destination for anybody who appreciates incredible architecture and wants an experience that is very far from the landscapes of Western Europe!

I hope that one of these cities has caught your eye, if you do get the chance to visit one of these amazing locations we would love see your experiences! You can tag us on instagram @grace_guru or use any of our hashtags #graceguru #graceguruloves #gracegurulifestyle!

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10 Tips To Be More Grateful This Thanksgiving!

One of the most powerful phrases you will ever utter is, ‘Thank you’. There is magic in gratitude yet many people do not understand this. There are many reasons to look up and say ‘thank you’ to a higher power, relatives, friends and strangers. There is a reason that Thanksgiving has been dedicated to a specific day. The moment you begin to understand the power of gratitude and to practice giving thanks, you will be shocked at how many positives you have been locking out of your life.

I know you are likely to say, “Look around. What is there to be thankful for?” Granted, there are more than enough challenges to struggle with. They range from people to events. Some are inherent in our workplaces. Homes can become sources of stress for those who should derive joy in them.

But you can choose to be grateful for what you are and what you have even when the surrounding says otherwise. It all starts with an attitude of gratitude. You can choose to see all the gloom or do what the minority do – find opportunity in disappointment. The secret behind gratitude is the numerous doors it opens for those who embrace it. Those who see something to smile about and be thankful for are among the happiest people on earth.

So.. What Actually Is Gratitude?

To be grateful means to be thankful. It is anattitude rather than an act. A grateful person remains thankful even when other people don’t understand the reason for the gratitude. It means seeing the good in life and acknowledging the simple everyday things that many people would not notice. When was the last time you were thankful for your life? The fact that you woke up in this morning is a miracle worth being thankful for.

When you are thankful, you take note of the little pleasures that you would otherwise ignore. For example, what are the exceptional positives of your neighborhood? Do you appreciate the beautiful green environment in the countryside? It takes the smog, traffic and noise of the city for some to realise that nature is important? When was the last time you had a cold? When last were you admitted at the hospital? Are all these not issues to be thankful for?

Grateful people consider each day a miracle. They do not take their lives for granted. They are always aware of the good in their environment. They appreciate the chirping of the birds and the movement of birds in the sky. They realise that even the little creatures that crawl in their houses have a role to play in the ecosystem. Life becomes one great feast in which every moment is to be enjoyed. When you are grateful you don’t count your losses but your blessings. You look not at what you lack but what you possess.

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Notice These Incredible Benefits Of Being Thankful

  1. There is ample research to confirm that grateful people are magnets to those around them.

Thanksgiving has its unique way of transforming the way we live and what happens in our lives.

You will have more joy, better relations and less stress. Most of the problems we face are figments of the mind. They are built around fear and anxiety. Gratitude helps you to face them with confidence knowing the good around you can only increase.

  1. Motivational teachings also encourage gratitude because by being thankful one is able to attract more positive outcomes in life.

The life you live today is a reflection of your dominant thoughts and feelings. Being thankful fills the heart with positive thoughts and this attracts more positive things in life. People who are thankful tend to attract positive people and circumstances. They enjoy living because they appreciate the little that comes in their lives.

  1. Gratitude also helps you to overcome stress and negative emotions.

You cannot avoid being stressed and unhappy considering the many problems that we face daily. However, gratitude reduces your level of stress and depression. Being happy, enthusiastic and optimistic is a result of gratitude. This happens when you are grateful. You have a better chance of achieving success when you are grateful.

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Tips To Be More Grateful

Gratefulness is an attitude but it must be cultivated through deliberate effort. You need to practice some routines and behaviours repeatedly until you become saturated with thankfulness. With time, you will realise that the more you practice being thankful the more you are likely to be happy, contented and successful in life. The following tips will help you to cultivate thankfulness:

  1. Keeping a journal: One of the best strategies you can use to develop a grateful attitude is to record the things you are thankful for in a diary. Writing enables you to reflect and learn from your experiences.
  2. Being thankful for meals: Before you eat or after you have eaten, be grateful to God or the universe.
  3. Thank people who help you: Be grateful to the waiter who serves you at the restaurant and other people who attend to your needs.
  4. Smile: Not many people can ignore a genuine smile and it is one way of making you even more grateful for your life.
  5. Start the day with a positive affirmation: When you wake up, repeat a phrase that makes you feel grateful.
  6. End the day with gratitude: Before you sleep, reflect on the events of the day and be thankful that you made it through the day.
  7. Bring a cheer to people in unfortunate situations: The misfortune of other people is not only an opportunity for you to help, but also to realise how fortunate you are.
  8. Celebrate the little things in life: Don’t wait for the big events of life; rather celebrate the milestones along the way.
  9. Listen to your favourite music: Play those refreshing tunes that fill you with cheer, especially as you retire to bed.
  10. Read a religious text: Most sacred books encourage believers to be grateful and kind.

With Love,

Your Grace Guru

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What Does Your Freedom Mean To You?

November 9 every year is a very important day for Americans and many other people all over the world. The World Freedom Day, as it is called, was first commemorated in 2001 to mark the fall of the Berlin Wall and the eventual collapse of communism in parts of Europe. Today, it is a symbol of all that we can point a finger to and call ‘Freedom’? But what exactly is freedom for you?

Freedom means many things to different people. In the days of slavery, nothing brought joy to a slave more than to know that he or she would no longer provide forced labor to a master. Many slaves had died while trying to escape their cruel owners. Those who managed to escape lived as fugitives, dreading the day they would be captured and taken back to their masters.

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Freedom to a slave meant more than stopping to offer forced labour on cotton and sugarcane farms. The worst form of slavery was mental suffering. The very idea and feeling that one’s fate was in the hands of another person was appalling. When the pain of a collection of people under slavery became too much to bear, they revolted, as happened in the Caribbean Islands and other places. People preferred to live in poverty than to be owned and oppressed.

Freedom means being able to determine what will happen to you. That was not the case with colonised nations. The histories of colonisation are complete with accounts of peasants who took up arms to fight powerful, well-armed and trained militaries of occupying nations. To many people, fighting modern armies with crude weapons was suicidal. However, the oppressed were willing to pay any price for freedom.

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Contemporary societies may not be fighting for physical freedom, but we still have various forms of slavery. The fight for democracy did not come easy for many nations. Autocratic rule is gradually coming to an end, but the fight for equal rights for all people came at a price. Many prodemocracy fighters were killed, jailed or injured for life. But there are places where people still have to go to the streets to demand for fair and free elections. This is the point at which freedom becomes a fight for human dignity.

As you consider what your freedom is, do not forget that the freedom of speech and assembly you enjoy did not come without a price. Today, you can take to the street to demonstrate your anger, but that was not always the case in your country. Be grateful that you can criticize the ruling class without necessarily ending up in jail. Freedom is never given to people on a silver platter. It has to be fought for.

On this World Freedom Day, remember that freedom is not absolute. Your rights are not supposed to infringe upon those of others. You have the right to demonstrate your anger against the government by protesting. However, you should not destroy other people’s property or loot in the process. The moment you use your freedom as an excuse to infringe on the rights of others, your freedom becomes slavery.

Do not fall into the temptation of using your freedom of expression to intimidate or harm others. Today, mainstream media and social media are used to unfairly target innocent people and to tarnish personalities. Press freedom should be used to bring out the good in society as well as to expose evil. However, when you infringe on private lives and write malicious and false stories about others because you don’t love them or you have been paid to assassinate their characters, you are not worthy of the freedom you enjoy.

Don’t forget too, that there are still millions of people that don’t enjoy the freedoms you do. Did you know that corruption, poverty, hunger and disease are forms of slavery? A child somewhere will not go to school because some politician or government official has embezzled funds meant to finance education. People will sleep on empty stomachs while others will die of preventable diseases. If you can support a cause that seeks to improve the lot of such people, you will have moral freedom – the satisfaction that you are helping another person to enjoy freedom.

Freedom is a concept that also applies to habits. Many of us are enslaved by alcoholism, drugs, cigarette smoking, pornography, binge eating and other negative habits. Unless you break away from these negative behaviors, you are not really free. In other words, freedom is not merely physical. If you are not in control of your faculties, you are a slave that needs to be freed as soon as possible. Freedom means you have the ability to choose how you will behave in any situation.

On this World Freedom Day, endeavour to become free of negative physical, emotional and psychological circumstances. Moreover, make sure you help others to become free from any form of enslavement. Remember, you cannot be truly free when those around you are slaves. Moreover, freedom comes with responsibility and unrestricted freedom can be slavery in itself.

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Your Grace Guru

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12 Common Negative Phrases You Need To Stop Saying!

Are you aware that negative thoughts and words can thwart an individual’s growth as well as reduce the chances of achieving success at any undertaking? Therefore, it is an excellent idea to substitute negative words with positive ones and live the life you truly want. Do not allow words to create unnecessary limitations in your life. Here are 12 popular negative phrases that you need to remove from your vocabulary immediately!

  1. I Can’t…

Any thought or statement that begins with I can’t is false. Usually, when people utilise the term “I can’t” what they actually mean is “I choose not.” The more times you start your statements with I can’t, the more you will experience limitations in your life. So, whenever you find yourself saying I can’t, stop for a moment and get tuned in to what’s happening around you.

You may be scared, feeling unable or incompetent, or thinking of previous experiences where you failed, or thinking of present circumstances and situations that are preventing you from performing a particular task. No matter the reason: ask yourself, “would you like to be able?” If you answered yes, then do the following:

1. Get a sheet of paper and write down all the ways it may be possible to accomplish the task.

2. Write down how you will feel when you have accomplished the task. Doing so will motivate you to perform the task.

Therefore, instead of saying “I can’t”, a more empowering phrase would be “I choose” or “I can.”

  1. I Am Not Good Enough

Who says you’re not good enough? Saying things like this to yourself will only put you down. This will not bring you any benefit whatsoever. Begin to believe in yourself and your capabilities to achieve success at any task. Instead of saying I am not good enough, you should be saying, “I’ve got what it takes” or “I deserve the best!”

  1. Whatever Will Be Will Be

This is another phrase that is masquerading as true but really not. “Whatever will be will be” is a pretext not to take action. What this phrase basically means is that your future is written already and you cannot influence tomorrow, regardless of what you do now. This is actually a big lie. The truth is that irrespective of what has occurred previously in your life, and regardless of what’s happening in your life right now, your future is shaped by what you do today. There are no ifs or buts about that.

Whenever you invoke “whatever will be will be”, you have already relinquished your power and will to the circumstances and individuals around you. Always remember that while circumstances and individuals can influence your actions, they do not decide what you will do. Only you can decide your fate in life. Therefore, instead of saying “whatever will be will be” trying saying, “if it is to be, it is up to me.”

  1. That Is Impossible

Many people say this when they hear something that’s different from what they believe. Individuals who live to maintain the status quo usually believe that any knowledge that does not support the status quo should be disregarded or ignored. What you should understand is that there is nothing that is impossible.

There are lots of possibilities within the universe, that precisely whatever can occur has a good chance of occurring somewhere sometime. The fact that evolution and change takes place continually counteracts the likelihood of exhausting possibilities. Whenever you hear something that is unusual or something that is different, instead of saying “that is impossible”, you can say “I believe in miracles”.

  1. I Am Alone

It is true that no one can make it in this world all alone. You will always require help from someone. Everyone is fighting their own battle in life; however every individual is different and is dealing with different circumstances and problems. It would be good if you can find someone with whom to share your burdens.

If you cannot, do not drown your mind in negative thoughts. Bear in mind that everyone feels depressed sometimes and it is fine to feel that way. Therefore, you should stop saying, “I am alone”, and start saying, “The universe/God is always there”.

  1. What People Say And Think About Me Matters

When did you last do something for yourself without bothering about other people or social standards generally? If you know that no one is judging you, what will you do? People will talk about you regardless of what you do. So why bother? If they do talk about you that means you are interesting! Do not give people the chance to destroy your dreams and aspirations. So, rather than thinking, “what people say and think about me matters”, you should start saying, “I am neither too little or too much, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone”.

 

  1. I Will Take Care Of This Later

It is said that the pain of being disciplined is less than the sting of regret. If you put off doing something you ought to do now, you may never accomplish that task. You should stop procrastinating because tomorrow never comes. Thus, rather than saying, “I will take care of this later”, you should start saying, “I am taking care of it right now”.

  1. I Do Not Deserve To Be Loved

The golden rule says that you should love your neighbor as yourself. But how will you love others if you cannot find it in your heart to love yourself. One good thing regarding love is that it is abundant. Rather than saying, “I do not deserve to be loved”, you should say “I love myself and I deserve to be loved”.

  1. I Cannot Forgive Him/Her

Stop bearing grudges against other people. Do not live life with bitterness in your heart. Holding grudges will only make you ill and sabotage your own happiness. One is not saying you should forgive others because they were wrong or right. Practice forgiveness because you deserve to free yourself from other individual’s insensitive choices. Thus instead of thinking, “I cannot forgive him or her”, you should say “I forgive… I release her/him with love”.

  1. If Only I Had More

Be thankful for the things you have now. Perhaps, you want to buy a pair of designer shoes because you like the way they look. Remember that there are individuals who do not have any shoes at all. So instead of saying, “if only I had more” you should start saying, “I am grateful for everything I have”.

  1. I Am A Failure

If you say you are a failure or a loser then you create the failures. Every blunder that you commit teaches you a lesson. There is a trail of failures behind every success story. Thus, you should learn from your failures and try again. Instead of saying “I’m a failure”, you should be saying “I am a learner”.

  1. What If It Does Not Work?

Fear is the main driver of this damaging phrase. Individuals who fear change often say this because they need a reason not to make progress. This provides them with a way out – someone or something to blame apart from themselves.

One is not saying you should not research as well as crosscheck your facts. However, when you are doing that, you should be looking for explanations to the problems that you come across. Instead of saying, “what if it does not work?” You should start asking, “what if it works?” By so doing, you will have a mindset of possibilities and solutions.

 

With Love,

Your Grace Guru

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How To Experience And Enjoy Tantra Energy

In conventional and popular sexual approaches, sexual energy is released when partners reach orgasm. However, did you know that this philosophy is only true when your partner and you do not understand how to control your bodies and minds?

Of depleted batteries that need recharging

Let’s use and analogy to understand how conventional sex works. When you charge a battery, it gives you the energy you need, which decreases gradually until the battery is drained. This is similar to what happens when you reach orgasm. Your sexual energy is discharged and you feel exhausted.

The opposite is true in Tantric Sex. Here the battery does not lose any energy; it flows unhindered. The partners in Tantric Sex experience increased a vitality that moves around the body – orgasm of the entire body. For partners in normal sex, the energy is in a kind of reservoir that is drained in a short while, during the moment of passion.

Not sporadic moments of passion but prolonged pleasure

Tantric Sex consists of sexual energy in sublime form. This energy remains within the sources, only leaving in form of flows and pulses and going back to its origin. Contrast this with conventional sex where a moment of passion results in the shutdown of the system. Now you know why men doze off after orgasm. In essence, the two sexual partners have no connection.

Rejuvenation, not exhaustion after sex

Tantric sex is different in that you feel rejuvenated and not exhausted during and after sex because of tantric energy. Both of you are conscious of the proceedings and of one another. Throughout the passionate encounter, you are mindful of the happenings and orgasm only enhances, but does not deplete, your energy. Very few people attain this state of continued pleasure.

The price to pay for tantric sex

But do not be cheated that this will happen without any effort. Your partner and you must be trained to focus. Tantra teachers use yoga techniques to train you on this approach to sex. The consequence is a rebirth, whereby you become totally aware of one another and your linkage – emotionally and spiritually. Make sure you choose the right partner or your husband, as the connection is becoming very strong!

In order to preserves and maximise sexual energy in Tantric Sex, you need to practice particular rituals. Prolonged Tantra worship assists you in generating sexual energy, which is them made to flow freely and rejuvenate the minds and bodies of your partner and you. For this to happen, your minds and bodies must be prepared adequately for the process.

Age and past experience do not matter

When your bodies and minds are not trained in Tantra Sex, you reach gratification rapidly. However, if you are prepared through tantric medication and yoga, you will last for a longer time, with sexual gratification taking longer to come. To learn more about Tantric Sex, identify a tantra master and start your journey towards fulfilling sex. Finally, in tantric sex, your age or past sexual experience cannot hinder you from enjoying this unforgettable sex.

With love,

Your Grace Guru

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What Is Tantric Sex?!

Sex is meant to be enjoyed by those involved in it. For many, it presents the opportunity to lift the partner and oneself into a world of pure passion and satisfaction. No wonder then that everybody craves for the big O – orgasm. But is the big O all that is important in sex?

Feeling Cheated

It has become the norm for many to approach the sexual act with the sole purpose of getting personal fulfillment without any regard as to the feelings of the other person. More often than not, one partner is left dissatisfied and unhappy. They feel cheated by their satisfied partners and sometimes have no desire to engage in sex with the same partner in future.

Sex As A Spiritual Journey And Encounter

To reverse this trend that exists since 5,000 years ago, try Tantric Sex. Tantric Sex is a philosophy that presents sexuality as a spiritual engagement. Tantra in Sanskrit means “woven together”. It is based on the tenet that sex is about radiating energy between partners by exploring sexuality. Unlike conventional sexual approaches, when you engage in Tantric Sex, you are not merely in search of orgasm, but your goal is to engage in an enriching and holistic sexual experience.

Reaching Out To A Higher Power

Tantra is not a religion. However, it offers you the opportunity to practice your beliefs if you are the kind of person who believes that sex should create a link between you and a supernatural being. Tantric Sex is also for you if you want to deepen the linkage between you and your lover. The good thing is that you are not required to ad here to a set of religious dogma to enjoy Tantric Sex.

How Different Is Tantric Sex?

By now you are familiar with the narrative of sex that we have been taught to adhere to: the unequivocal beginning (sexual anticipation), the middle (physical penetration) and the culmination (orgasm). Well, you will be surprised to know that Tantric Sex deviates from this norm and encourages feeling and slowing down to enjoy the sexual experience.

How To Practice Tantric Sex

It all begins with preparing you’re a nice comfortable area for sex, ensuring the it is comfy and aromatizing the room with sensual scents. But not your bedroom, as in the bedroom we automatically want to go to sleep. The next step is to synchronize your breathing with that of your partner before actual penetration. Tantric Sex also demands that you open your eyes and maintain that stance when making love as this will create precious memories to keep you going as you wait for the next encounter with your partner. Finally, make love slowly, taking time to focus your thoughts on your partner and build sexual and spiritual energy together.

Why Tantric Sex?

It is important to view your spouse or sexual partner as a human being with feelings. Further, there is a lot of positive energy that you can derive from the other person during sex. Additionally, Tantric Sex brings you closer to your supreme being. In essence, this is not just sex – it is a lasting and unforgettable experience.

Read more about Tantra and practical exercises in my next articles!

 

With love,

Your Grace Guru

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Just Get Happy!

Human beings crave good things. No one wishes himself or herself bad luck. We all wake up with the desire to have a good day and good fortune. Unfortunately, it does not always happen the way we want it. We have to contend with negative events and people.

On the other hand, happiness is not an option if you want to live a fulfilling life. From the onset, it is important to understand that even science attests to the healing and rejuvenating qualities of happiness. In essence, you simply have to find ways of being happy despite the negative circumstances that may be surrounding you.

Further, you need to realise that happiness will not just happen to you. You must create happiness consciously and deliberately. You must pursue happiness the same way you endeavour to place food on the table. Remember, happiness is an attitude and not a fixed state. Even if you are given all the material things in this world, you will still need to make the decision to be happy.

Let us analyse some strategies through which you can begin to be happy or increase your level of happiness in spite of all the reasons that life gives you to be unhappy…

  1. Fake It!

Wow! What a way to start? You ask. And I mean it. Pretend that you are happy. Smile when circumstances are not favourable to you. Instead of inviting pity from others, act like you are happy. It is a habit you have to calculate over time until you finally master it. Didn’t you here that practice makes perfect? This maxim is also applicable to making yourself adopt a happy disposition. When you give your mind the impression that all is well, you will infect your heart with the same warmth and every part of you will begin to feel happy. And of course remember like attracts like !

  1. Watch Who You Let Close To You

Some of the people you call family and friends are the ones who bring unhappiness into your life. Please don’t think that I hate these people because I don’t even know them. You know that you can’t stand some of them. The moment that colleague comes near you, your moods plunge and you feel like a blanket of sadness has come over you. Simply put, you cannot become happy in their presence. Please do yourself a favour and minimise contact with such people. Take a walk or vacation when necessary. Don’t let people surround you with negative energy. Remember that even if they are family members, you have only one life to live and nobody should steal your happiness.

  1. Surround Yourself With People Who Love You

This may sound like another way of saying what I said in the previous point, but there is more to it. Do you have these people whom you feel comfortable around and who lift your spirits at all times? Some of them are family members or former schoolmates who know you more than anybody else. I am referring to that guy who reminds you of a silly game you played when you were young. I have in mind the people who remain with you whether the sun appears to have dropped a few meters towards you or it is raining hail. These people celebrate you and comfort you. Your happiness is closely linked with them. When they are not around you feel like your heart is empty. Seek for the company of such folks all the time and you will always be happy.

  1. Speak Positively To Yourself

There is one person who will always be with you and whose company you should seek and cultivate. Look at the mirror and that person will look back at you and smile. Learn to appreciate yourself. Nobody knows what you are capable of doing more than yourself. When despair sets, in recall those moments when you went through trouble and came out strong. Speak to yourself and affirm that you are going to have a good day. Tell yourself that no problem is beyond you. Practice speaking audibly to yourself and mention your name as you speak. Create affirmative statements that you can speak to encourage yourself, and happiness will be yours.

  1. Be Grateful

There is some magical power in expressing gratitude either to others or simply acknowledging the many positive things in your life. Think about it this way: how many of the people you knew when you were young are alive today? How would you like to exchange places with a homeless refugee in a war-torn country like Syria? How about spending your nights in the cold because you are homeless? Would you like to take the place of the terminally ill person abandoned by family and friends in a hospice and who longs to die more than to live? Think about that sibling or parent who is always there for you and the little angel that smiles and waves at you when you leave your house to go to work. I can assure you that thinking about these things before you go to sleep, when you wake up and when unfortunate events happen to you, will lift your spirit almost immediately.

  1. Be Optimistic

Negative thoughts and despondency are the reason many people live unhappily. Perhaps you know people who always see the negative side of life. I know folks who are so much negative minded that even when you give them a present they want to know whether you have a hidden motive. It is possible that your pessimism is as a result of very many negative happenings in your life, but that does not give you the reason to become a prophet of doom. Sometimes we tend to exaggerate negative situations when there is actually a positive angle to an issue. It is true that life has many bad happenings but there is a lot more that is positive that you need to celebrate today. Instead of agonising at that negative issue that you cannot change, why not begin another project that can harness your strengths and capabilities?

More Ideas!

  • Find a purpose in life and endeavour to always work in the occupation or profession which you believe you were called or created to do.
  • Identify negative habits that contribute to your unhappiness and replace them with habits that make you feel valuable and loved by your friends and family.
  • Collect nuggets of wisdom that you can feed on every morning and evening, most of which can be found in religious and motivational books.
  • Begin a project or activity that brings happiness to others, like visiting people in need and donating towards their upkeep.
  • Join clubs or societies than engage in activities that you find uplifting and enjoyable to do, like communal work.
  • Increase your happiness by reading books written by your favourite authors and whose ideologies you share.
  • If you have some favourite type of music, set everything aside and treat yourself to your favourite musical sounds.
  • Watch a movie or comedy that gladdens your heart and appeals to your humour because as your laugh about the foolishness of the actors you will be eradicating your won unhappiness.
  • Engage in some childish behaviour that you used to do when you were young. For example, play some games with children and enjoy reliving childhood memories.
  • Live in the present; perform those activities that make you happy today instead of waiting for tomorrow which you are not even sure you will live to see.

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 With love,

Your Grace Guru

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